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Honor Thy Process!

While having a spirited discussion with an acquaintance about applying mathematical principles to emotional healing, the significance of one’s treatment of the self during such times was illuminated for me. Remembering that we are humans and not computers may allow us to put our processing of emotions into perspective. There is no timeline, schedule or format that we must abide by in order to move forward from a traumatic event. Those around us cannot dictate how long or in what fashion we heal emotionally. Often, it is a loved one’s discomfort in seeing us struggle that elicits their controlling attitude toward our progress. I, for one, am grateful that I am not a soulless computer or robot controlled by some binary code. Being human sets us apart from all other life forms so let’s rejoice in our ability to think and feel our way through life. That being said, it would be arrogant to suggest that other life forms are devoid of emotions or thought, but that is not the focus of this discussion. So what is the focus of this discussion? Honoring one ’s self! Respecting one’s individual process for moving through and forward from physically, mentally and/or emotionally upsetting life events is paramount.

Based on the many books I have read on the subject and my own personal experiences, being gentle with oneself is imperative. Allowing yourself to be exactly where you are at any stage of healing is both a honoring and gentle state of being. Work toward shutting out the expectations of others. Going inward through meditation or quiet rest is said to help people get in touch with their inner guidance (be that God, higher self, universal consciousness…whatever you call that inner voice you trust). In times of meditation, ask what is needed for your healing. A personal example happened for me very recently. After a long period of caring for my parents and their affairs at the detriment of my own wellbeing, my healing took the form of sitting on the couch staring mindlessly at the wall in front of me every spare minute I was not at work. Being an A type personality, my brain was spinning out of control with all the “should be doings”, but my body was screaming, “NO, LET ME REST”! As uncomfortable and nervous I felt about sitting and doing nothing, I honored and trusted my process. Sure enough, the day came when veg’ing out was no longer needed and the next phase of the process kicked in. There are many resources at our disposal now for progressing our healing.

Different forms of exercise, changes in diet, speaking with a qualified mental health professional, supplements and books are just some of the forms our “therapy” can take. In the above example, I employed Bach Flower Remedies during my couch potato phase. It was the most passive form of outside assistance I could come up with. Trusting our inner guidance and going with the flow without judgment is the only “rule” we should be following. Of course, it should go without saying, the flow our healing takes should never involve hurting ourselves or others. Violence of any kind, be it thought or action, is not rooted in love and therefore can never lead us to health and well-being. In general, weather we experience thoughts of violence or not, finding a trustworthy friend or professional to share our thoughts and feelings with often clarifies your path to healing.

Sharing our emotions rather than hiding them will allow us to progress more quickly. Even allopathic medicine is beginning to acknowledge the connection between bottled up emotions and illness. To hide our feelings from others is to deny our humanness. Some people will say they do not want to burden others with their feelings, but that in turn is a closing off of the human experience. There is a wonderful side effect that comes from sharing with another human being…enrichment of the relationship between the two people sharing. Relationship with one’s self or another can not be ruled by mathematical equations and binary codes. Equations and codes are neat and tidy and are comfortable to those uncomfortable with uncertainty or the often vagueness of emotions. As Mary Steenburger’s character in one of my favorite movies, Parenthood, screams during an argument with her husband (played by Steve Martin) over the chaos that is life with children, “life is messy, [and I enjoy riding the rollercoaster]”.




Anne-Jeanné Rothchild is not providing medical services and she cannot diagnose, prescribe, nor treat symptom, defect, injury, or disease pursuant to California Business and Professional Code 2052. She can do health counseling or therapies as a Board Certified Drugless Practitioner in the capacities of Clinical Nutritionist Consultant (C.N.C.), Clinical Master Herbalist (C.M.H.), Clinical Aromatherapist (C.A.), or Holistic Health Practitioner (H.H.P.). Nothing she states should be considered as a substitute in any way for consultation, diagnosis, and treatment by a licensed primary health care provider, such as a Medical Doctor (M.D.) Anne-Jeanné Rothchild is not a licensed M.D. or licensed primary health care provider. Our communication is for educational purposes only. If I want medical advice or treatment, Anne-Jeanné Rothchild encourages me to consult with a licensed primary health care provider. I consult with Anne-Jeanné Rothchild in her capacity as a holistic health counselor who conveys self-help information that people can use to increase their own health and well-being. I affirm my right to self-health and I take full responsibility for my healing process.

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